Honor His Wishes

Give weight to what your husband thinks is important.
Make those things a priority that matter most to him.
Don't make him ask twice.

I have these words up in my kitchen at the moment which I got from a magazine. This is the main marriage advice I remember my Mum telling me.
I thought I had this down pat until last night I realized I still have a long way to go.
My husband commented on something I was wearing. He didn't like it for modesty reasons. Straight away I argued back as I had the last two times he mentioned it. Then I caught myself. Ouch!  Later on I asked my husband if he really didn't like it.(It pays to check as sometimes he is just teasing!:) ). Thismorning I put those clothes, along with some more clothes I knew he didn't like, into my opp shop bag.
I have a few less clothes now, but I have joy knowing I have honored his wishes. A happy marriage is far more important than a few clothes.
Another thing has been screen time for the children. Many times he has commented on how he doesn't like how much screen time (watching videos) I let them have. Instead of honoring his wishes, for a long time I just made excuses. Ouch again! This week we have gone 4 days so far with no screen time. And again I have joy knowing I am honoring my man!
What is important to your husband?
Are you honoring his wishes?
You will be blessed if you do!


5 Minute Warning

(I don't have much time or ideas for writing at the moment. But I thought maybe I could share simple tips that I've found helpful on organization, saving money, child rearing and marriage as I love learning new tips. I don't stick to all these, but I go back to them when I need them.)

This is one tip I learned at a parenting course that I use often. When it's almost time for the children to tidy up, turn off a movie, come inside for dinner, go out in the car or whatever, I often tell the children they have a few minutes left. That way they have warning; they're not suddenly told to drop what they're doing as that can cause unnecessary frustration.


A Thankful Heart

Do you have any fussy eaters in your family?
One of our little girls has always been very picky. She doesn't even like lollies! But lately she has been more fussy than ever. The other night we sat down for dinner and all three of our older children didn't want to eat their dinner. I felt rather fed up. When all you get for your efforts to put a meal on the table is complaints, it's enough to get you down. Especially when it happens regularly and you do know how to cook!
So I was feeling pretty frustrated and thinking that we needed to do something about their complaining. I thought, 'I know how God felt when all the Israelites did was complain at what He had provided for them.'
My mum told me once that our children are just like us. So I started to think about whether I have the same complaining spirit sometimes. I realized I am often just as guilty.
My children don't always like what I put on their plate, but I expect them to eat it without complaint. They don't have to like it but they have to eat it. If they chose all their own food, they wouldn't be very healthy. I give them what is good for them, but they often don't like the healthy food.
And so I don't always like what God puts on my plate. I don't like having sick children, being in hospital, being woken up in the night, etc. If I had the choice, I would choose a nice pleasant life that is trouble free! But that's not good for me. And God expects me to have a thankful heart in spite of the things I don't like.
Sometimes I feel like there is too much on my plate. But God knows better than me. (Although sometimes I put unnecessary things on there that God doesn't expect me to do).
Do you have a thankful heart?


God Knows Your Sorrows

These verses from the Daily Light were an encouragement to me thismorning. After working for months trying to get our baby feeding, we finally thought she had gotten there. Only to have her take a step backwards and go back to not sucking and being tubefed. I find the whole thing very frustrating. But God knows and will help me.
What are your sorrows today? Big or small God knows, cares and will give you more grace.

I know their sorrows.
A man of sorrows and acquainted with grief. ---Touched with the feeling of our infirmities.
Himself took our infirmities, and bare our sicknesses.---Jesus...being wearied with his journey, sat thus on the well.
When Jesus...saw her weeping, and the Jews also weeping which came with her, he groaned in the spirit, and was troubled.---Jesus wept.---For in that he himself hath suffered being tempted, he is able to succor them that are tempted.
He hath looked down from the height of his sanctuary; from heaven did the LORD behold the earth; to hear the groaning of the prisoner; to loose those that are appointed to death.---He knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold. ---When my spirit was overwhelmed within me, then thou knewest my path.
He that toucheth you toucheth the apple of his eye. ---In all their affliction he was afflicted; and the angel of his presence saved them.


Trusting in the Dark Moments

There are dark times when we can't feel God's presence and it seems like God is not there. Do you ever feel like this?
One of the times my baby was admitted to hospital, the first night I felt really unsettled and anxious. It didn't feel like God was there with me. I didn't feel peace in spite of praying and reading the Bible. But I realized that my baby also couldn't see me from her cot. She couldn't see that I was sleeping right next to her. But I was there. And I had to trust that God was right there with me in spite of not feeling it. The next day those anxious feelings were gone in spite of still being in the same situation and I was ok again.

Behold, I go forward, but he is not there; and backward, but I cannot perceive him:
  On the left hand, where he doth work, but I cannot behold him: he hideth himself on the right hand, that I cannot see him
But he knoweth the way that I take: when he hath tried me, I shall come forth as gold.
Job 23:8-10


Obstacles to Time With God

Zacchaeus wanted to meet Jesus, but there were obstacles in his way.
He was short, and there were lot of people inbetween him and Jesus making it impossible for him to see.
So what did he do? Did he give up?
No, he found a way to overcome both obstacles! He climbed a tree. So simple, a little unusual, but it worked!
And guess what? Jesus not only spotted him in the tree, He stopped, talked to Him and went back to His house and spent time with Him.
What happened as a result? Zacchaeus was a changed man.
(Luke 19:1-11)
I can relate to Zaccaeus. I don't find it so easy to get close to the Lord at the moment. 
As a busy mum and wife, I find there are many obstacles in the way of spending time with God. Life is more busy than usual at the moment with a 'high need' baby, and at the time of day I would like to be reading my Bible, I have a baby to get fed and medicine to prepare and give her etc. One night I was feeding her and I had my Bible open next to me. I read this story of Zaccheaus and it straight away spoke to me. Zacchaeus found a way to see Jesus even though it wasn't the normal way. God blessed his efforts and spent time with Him. God will also bless my efforts to spend time with Him. When I make an effort to spend time with Him, He will meet with me. He knows the obstacles. He knows what its like to be a Mum and wife with many things that have to be done. But He also wants me to make Him a priority.
We can find creative ways to overcome these obstacles. At the moment, instead of reading my Bible, I mostly listen to it. I downloaded it for free on http://www.bible.is/download/audio  I listen to it while I'm feeding my baby or folding the washing or whatever else. The Daily Light is another great tool for Mums, as it is short and easy to read but pure Bible.
Don't feel bad if you don't have a set time to sit down and spend time with God because it just doesn't work for you. But do your best to find some way to pray and hear or read God's Word. You may have to be creative, but God will bless it and you will change.



Yesterday at the breakfast table I read the story to my children of  Peter walking on the water to Jesus. When he took his eyes off Jesus and looked at the storm, he was overwhelmed and afraid. He started to sink. But when his eyes were on Jesus the impossible happened.
I can relate to Peter. Life is often overwhelming and I am afraid I won't cope. Specially when there are complications added to the normal chaos. On difficult days coping well can seem as impossible as walking on water! I can feel like I am drowning.
And yet it amazes me how with God we can do the 'impossible!' With God's help we can cope on the bad days and difficult seasons. of life. We may need to ask for or accept help. We may need to simplify and prioritize, but we CAN cope! We don't have to drown in the busyness and stress.
A while back our baby was in hospital for a very long time. We were separated from our children half the time and a long way from home. Staying cheerful and making the most of the time seemed an impossibility! But although it was very hard and nightmarish, the impossible happened---I was able to cope! It amazed me. On most days I was able to laugh at our situation even though it was far from funny. I was able to be cheerful and make the most of the moments with our children. The whole thing to me was an impossibility but with God all things are possible!
And now back at home with a very busy life, I often wake up in the morning overwhelmed and wondering how I will keep up with all I need to do. Sometimes it seems impossible. But if my eyes are on the Lord, He helps me. He helps me in many different ways through different people and means.
If I focus on all the difficulties and the impossibilities, I 'drown!'
And when I am 'drowning' God hears my cry for help and pulls me up.
God is so good. His goodness amazes me again and again.
What difficulties are you going through right now? Are you overwhelmed and wondering if it is possible for you to cope?
With God impossibilities happen! Keep your eyes on Him.