You Have This Moment

Recently I met a mother who has twin babies. One of her twins is in intensive care but the other one is fine. Her sick twin nearly died at one stage. She said that someone told her, “You only have the moment.” That thought helped her.

Thinking about it, it's actually quite Biblical. We have no guarantee that we have tomorrow, but we do have this moment.

We may not have our children tomorrow, we may not have our husband tomorrow, we may not even be alive tomorrow, but we do have this moment to show love and spend time with them.

The people we see today, we may never see again. But we do have this moment to be friendly.

Our friends may be gone tomorrow, but they are still here today. Be a friend while you have the chance--It may not be there tomorrow.

It's so easy to put things off or to waste the precious moments we have. But this moment is the only guarantee we have.

I was just reading in the newspaper thismorning of a man who has been told he has 9 months left to live. He said he wants to spend that time making memories with his family. Making the most of the moment.

Life can change so quick. Last week my children were staying with me next to the hospital where our baby was. At 1:00 in the afternoon I was told our baby needed to be transported to another hospital first thing the next morning. I had the afternoon and evening to organize for the children to go back to my parents place and to get packed up. I was glad I had spent the week that I did have with them making memories and having special times with them.

Make the most of this moment. It may be the last one you have.

James 4:14 Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away.

Proverbs 27:1 Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth.


Blessings in Disguise

The other day I asked a lady on the lift why she is staying at Ronald McDonald (Ronald McDonald is free accommodation for those who have children/young people in the Wellington Hospital).
She answered, “My youngest son who is 20yrs has cancer. He's having chemotherapy for 6 months.”
I was already feeling a little down at the time, but when she told me that, I nearly cried on the spot! While I ate dinner, I felt so sad for this family.
Putting my dishes in the dishwasher I noticed a little girl with a huge swollen hand. She obviously had something wrong with her.
Everywhere I look at the moment, there is suffering. Pain. Heartache. Tears. Worry.
I went to my room and burst into tears.
Why so much suffering?
Why does a 20yr old have to get cancer?
Then the thought came to me. Cancer could turn out to be a blessing to this family. If it turns them to God, it would be all worth it. It could mean their life is changed for good.
I was able to wipe my tears and pray for this family—that God would use this trial to bring them to God, or to bring them closer to Him if they already know Him.
Hard times are often blessings in disguise. God wouldn't allow them otherwise.

If we pray for God's blessing, God may have to bring hard times in order to answer those prayers.
If we pray to be Christlike, God will send difficulties that will teach us to be Christlike.
Instead of praying for God to take trials away, maybe we should pray that we will be changed for good through them.

My baby has had a lot of heel pricks while she has been in the Nicu. She doesn't like them. It's the main time I hear her cry.
I can imagine her thinking, “Mummy, this hurts! Why are you allowing this? Don't you love me? Make them stop!”
And my answer would be, “I hate to see you hurting, Lydia. But it's for your good. You need it.” I would then do my best to comfort her until it was over.
God allows trials because we need them. He doesn't like to see us hurting, but He gives us comfort during hard times.

It's easy to question God's love during difficulties, but sometimes it's because of God's love. Hard times wake us up to what's really important in life and help us to see our need for God. They force us to depend on Him. They give us much more love and understanding for others.

“It is good for me that I have been afflicted; that I might learn thy statutes.” Psalm 119:71

For our light affliction, which is but for a moment, worketh for us a far more exceeding and eternal weight of glory; 2 Corinthians 4:17


So Many Blessings!

At the moment we are going through one of the hardest things we've ever been through. (Our baby has been in the hospital for the past 5 weeks and will be until she has had heart surgery.) I feel like I am having one of those nightmares when you just can't get home! And yet when I sit down and write down all my blessings, I feel like I am so spoilt!

These are just the general blessings, not the little ones that happen every day.

1) Our new baby, Lydia

2) The ability to get pregnant

3) Three other children

4) A supportive and loving husband

5) Lots of good caring friends

6) An amazing supportive church family

7) A wonderful family who are helping us so much

8) The children being able to stay with my family half the time and with me the other half.

9)Hospital care for Lydia

10) The hospital care being free

11) The government support for babies and children

12) An amazing place to stay at while Lydia is in hospital, with free melas, great play areas for the children, and everything is nice, new, free, and very comfortable.
I could write a whole separate list of blessings about this place!

13) Not much housework and cooking to do at the moment :)

14) Lots of visitors

15) So many gifts we've been given

16) Not having to go to the hospital overnight—being able to sleep all night.
Not normal when you have a new baby! :)

17) Romans 8:28—the promise that God is using this trial for our good

18) A new experience—seeing what trials a lot of people are going through and meeting these people

19) Lydia's heart condition is fixable

20)It's not me in hospital!
Lydia is not aware of where she is and won't remember it. Time would really drag if it was me on a hospital bed.

21) Lydia is in hospital as a newborn
It would be much harder if she was older or if it were one of my other children in hospital with a health problem

22) I am healthy

23) All my other children were born healthy

24) Time is flying while we're here because of the busyness

25) The joy God gives in spite of what we are going through

26) All the encouragement God gives in His Word

27) God is near to the brokenhearted

28) God hears our prayers, but answers with what is best and not necessarily with what we want and might regret later

29) Knowing ahead of time that Lydia has heart problems, so we could be a bit prepared

30) Feeding Lydia in the Nicu, I can breastfeed without distractions from the other children etc.

31) I am able to stay over the road from the hospital
I have talked to other mums from the wellington area. Some of them have to take the bus and come for the whole day. Others can't drive because of their c-sections and yet need to get to the hospital every day. And others have to travel over half an hour. I only have to run over the road!

32) The hospital is only 11/2 hours from our home.
It's close enough for me to go home for a day and for my husband to travel back and forth. Others here live much further away.

33) Friends who have gone through similar things

34) Lots of people here to talk with who all have something in common with me—they have a baby in the Nicu and they want to go home!

35) I can speak the same language as the doctors and nurses.
I have seen 2 mums so far who don't speak much English and can't communicate with the doctors and nurses. Imagine that!

36)Lydia is number four
If I'd of had to stay in hospital this long with my first one, I think I may have been very scared to have more!
In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you
1Thessalonians 5:18 


The God of Comfort

This last month has been very difficult starting with the birth of our fourth child who has Down syndrome and a heart problem. She has been in the hospital for the last month and still needs surgery sometime.The night before she was born I glued this poem into the little notebook I had made to keep me encouraged during my 'hospital' stay. I have read it many times since and I love it!
I love the phrase 'The God of Comfort' and have found this true over this last month. God often uses people around us to encourage and help us when we're going through a hard time.
During the first week and a half, my other children went to my Mum's which is about 5 hours away.  Although I needed the break, I found it really hard to be separated from them as they are all little. One day I was struggling with this, and at 10:00 in the evening in the expressing room in the hospital I met another mum who was going through exactly the same thing. What she said to me really helped me and I knew God had sent her to encourage me.
Another time during the evening in the hospital again, a nurse came over to talk to me because she had a child with Down Syndrome, too. She sat and chatted for a while and shared her experiences and answered my questions.
And  then there was the nurse who happened to mention that she was from a big family. It turned out that she was from a family of 10 girls and 2 boys. My family has 10 girls and 1 boy!
Yesterday I got to go to church for the first time since being here which was a blessing in itself. It was a church we hadn't been to before. We had been there a few minutes before one lady came up and introduced herself as one of the nurses in the Nicu who has looked after our baby!
Just a few of the many things/people God has used to encourage me!
God is good and will give us many blessings during the hard times if we don't give up hope in Him!

I have been through the valley of weeping,
The valley of sorrow and pain;
But the "God of all comfort" was with me,
At hand to uphold and sustain.
As the earth needs the clouds and sunshine,
Our souls need both sorrow and joy;
So He places us oft in the furnace,
The dross from the gold to destroy.
When He leads thro' some valley of trouble,
His omnipotent hand we trace;
For the trials and sorrows He sends us,
Are part of His lessons in grace.
Oft we shrink from the purging and pruning,
Forgetting the Husbandman knows
That the deeper the cutting and paring,
The richer the cluster that grows.
Well He knows that affliction is needed;
He has a wise purpose in view,
And in the dark valley He whispers,
"Hereafter Thou'lt know what I do."
As we travel thro' life's shadow'd valley,
Fresh springs of His love ever rise;
And we learn that our sorrows and losses,
Are blessings just sent in disguise.
So we'll follow wherever He leadeth,
Let the path be dreary or bright;
For we've proved that our God can give comfort;
Our God can give songs in the night.



Your Heavenly Father knows...

I just love this verse! This verse came to my mind last night when I was writing down some prayer requests in my prayer journal. A particular need that I will soon have concerns me sometimes and I was praying about it. But I remembered this verse and it so encouraged me. God already knows exactly what I need as a wife and mother. He knows before I even ask. And he has promised that He will provide my needs and I don't need to worry. He still wants me to pray and give him my burdens, but I don't have to try and convince Him of the things I need. He knows I have need of all these things!



I love this little song that George Beverly Shea sings!
In the happy moments,
 Praise Him
In the difficult moments,
Seek Him.
In the busy moments,
Bless Him.
In the quiet moments,
Worship Him.
In the waiting moments,
 Trust Him.
In the painful moments,
 Touch Him.
In the lovely moments,
 Thank Him.
In the quiet moments,
 Worship Him.
For in all our moments
He is there---
In goodness, in kindness
In love.