Children Suffering Grief or Difficulties

Yesterday during our family devotions, we were all sharing about what things make us scared. When it was our six year old's turn, she completely took me by suprise. She shared that the thing that made her scared is that 'mummy's baby would die' in my tummy. She meant that when I was pregnant last time, she was scared that the baby would die, because it had happened the time before. 
Afterwards she came up and gave me a hug. "When I'm a lady I might be afraid that my baby will die in my tummy," she told me. Ouch! Talk about making the tears come!
My miscarriages are a sore spot. Most of the time life goes on and I don't even think about them. Then something out of the blue 'presses on that sore spot' and in an instant I feel all 'sore' again.
What our girl said, reminded me of the sadness that it was for them as children. They really wanted that baby! It was a real disappointment for them. 
As a mother, it hurts me to see my children hurt. I remember after my second miscarriage feeling so sad for the children. Then I thought, 'My mum probably feels just as sad for me!'
We want to protect our children from any hurt and pain. We should do our best to do that. And we should especially try not to be the cause of any heartache by our actions etc.
But we can't protect our children from all suffering and insecurity. Somethings are completely out of our control.
When Lydia was born, I felt really bad that our family had to be split up. Our children had to go around 5 hours away and everything was so uncertain. I was used to being with them 24/7 as none of them were school age yet. I felt guilty that I couldn't care for them. I was afraid it would make them insecure etc. I believed God's promise that "All things work together for good to them that love God." (Romans 8:28), yet I didn't see how it could possibly be good for our children and our family. 
I had to believe that promise even though I didn't see how. I had to just give my children to God. And they were fine. I think it was harder for me than it was for them! It was a big adventure for them!
We pray for our children. We want the best for them. And yet the best for them might include some pain and suffering. It may be what teaches them to depend on God, pray, learn compassion and have a kind heart. I have heard more than one person say, it was their heartbreaks that helped them to know God. What turned their life upside down really turned it right side up.
It is far more important for our children to know God than it is for them to be spared from any grief.